I had to send my the women who are in the trenches of leadership with me an urgent text message yesterday. Basically it said I’d offered to make dinner for one of our own who birthed her third babe last week (and now deserves all things pasta and chocolate) but I’d over-anticipated my capacity for this Tuesday. so, in short, I needed help.
Of course they rose to the occasion and all I had to prepare was the main dish (never going wrong with baked spaghetti). It was an awesomely freeing feeling to ask for help and to receive it.
But sometimes I’m quite guilty of not asking. Sometimes I apparently would rather flake out or have a tantrum or just yell at my husband rather than ask for just a little bit of help. Or guidance. Or relief.
Sarah Mae, who wrote Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe, the book I’m reading with that leadership team that welcomes tired mamas every other Friday to MOPS, says very plainly, “What a young mother really needs is physical help.”
Exactly. Sometimes what I really need is four sets of hands, you know, one for each child? And it’s okay if those hands are attached to my mom or mother-in-law or friend or mentor. Especially when those hands are being held wide open and desiring to share some wisdom while folding the never ending pile of laundry that keeps my girls’ room disguised rampaged outlet store.
I know, I know. It’s hard to ask. I’ve got four kids and am just now getting to where I realize how vitally important it is to lay down my own feelings of inadequacy and that idol of control so someone can be the hands and feet of sweet Jesus for me.
It’s okay if you have a hard time with the asking. But can I encourage you to accept the offers? And can I encourage you that if you don’t want physical help, to at least seek some guidance from those who have gone before?
You don’t even have to talk to someone to find guidance in areas like marriage, kids’ activities, meal planning, and devotions. The internet is an unlimited resource that easily overwhelms and intimidates. That’s why I’m excited to share a little (actually it’s a lot!) something with you.
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